I usually notice how the weather affects people.
In Melbourne it’s been (and still is) wet, rainy and humid.
The weather is out of my control so I tend not to worry about it.
What is in my control is how I can feel and what I can do about things.
The way I see things is that there is no such thing as “bad weather”.
It’s just weather.
What makes weather “bad” for people is the inconvenience it causes them.
I guess this leads to a bigger question.
Do you worry about things that are out of your control?
Does the weather affect you?
As human beings we want a sense of control.
When we don’t have control we can freak out.
A sense of anxiety and stress can kick in not knowing what can happen next.
Maybe that’s one of the reasons why the weather can affect people.
Even though they know they can’t change it.
Whether it’s the rain in Melbourne or life’s uncertainties, accepting the lack of control over external factors can be liberating.
What we can influence is our emotional response and coping strategies.
We just have to be mindful of it.
And with busy schedules, it can easily slip past one’s mind to even contemplate a moment of introspection.
Some people I know don’t even have time to scratch their butt! (So they say).
So how do you remember this very important moment?
I use the feeling as a trigger.
For example, as soon as I start to feel a feeling that is negative, I stop.
Then I ask myself the question, “What can I do about this situation? What is in my control?”.
If it’s out of my control, I let things be and move along.
If it’s in my control, then at least by being mindful of this fact I can plan and act accordingly.
This is the power of memory.
Creating triggers for how you feel can help you be more mindful and take control of your life.
If you want to change the way you use your brain to help you gain back control, then let’s have a chat. Contact me.